A new religion in our American culture is rapidly gaining devout followers. Its followers are typically between the ages of about twenty-two and fifty and there are generally more women than men. This religion does not seem to produce much satisfaction or peace. Many of its followers end up frazzled, stressed, and scrupulous, and find their marriages […]
The Very Thought of You
It seems to be a generally accepted fate that people who fell in love will fall out of it and that romance within long-term relationships or marriage is bound to die. The usual advice to try to prevent this goes something like: try to make time for each other. Set monthly/weekly date nights. And certainly, […]
In Sickness
People seem to assume that marriage causes suffering. But that is too simplistic. Marriage does not cause suffering; life causes suffering. What makes married people unique is that, by vowing to be one in all things, they inevitably vow to be one in their suffering. This means they can’t run from suffering. They must endure […]
It’s My Body, But That’s Not the Point
Unlike my husband and toddler, my love language is not primarily physical affection. I need to be near those I love, but I don’t necessarily need a whole lot of touch. Many nights in bed I naturally graviate to my own cool space once it’s time to sleep, but no matter what, both my husband […]
Sex-Ed is Killing The Mood
For as long as the Judeo-Christian cultures have been placing moral restrictions on sexuality, the rest of the world has complained that such restrictions dampen the fun, joy, and pleasure of that sexuality. And they may very well be right. But there is another moral code that is dampening the fun, joy, and pleasure of […]
So What if We’re Not Biologically Monogamous?
The fact that 38 million married people are registered on the recently hacked cheating website, Ashley Madison, has come as a shock to many, but not necessarily a real disappointment. There have been plenty of recent articles claiming the situation a mere natural consequence of an unnatural expectation. They point to evidence that humans are probably not biologically […]
