Marriage is great, BUT… They continue about how complicated everything is, how it’s never easy, how they want to kill each other half the time, or whatever it is that isn’t honeymoon bliss. You can find this kind of comment all over the place. It is usually made by somebody who really does believe in […]
Missing the Point of Premarital Abstinence
I’ve read many articles criticizing premarital abstinence, claiming that it causes all sorts of sexual issues and insecurities. And I believe those issues are real— but premarital abstinence itself is not to blame. It’s more complicated than that. Because premarital abstinence is an unpopular and difficult commitment many people over-glamorize it. They lose sight of […]
In Defense of Gifts
In this age of the entitlement complex many parents are rightfully concerned about spoiling their children. I know I am. Last year, after my initial excitement at getting to be Santa for the first time, I was overcome with a gloomy anxiety, a progression of obsessive thoughts and questions: how many gifts is too many? […]
Celebrating Baby Peace
Throughout both of my pregnancies I feared miscarriage. I tried to commit myself to not entertaining such fears— I tried not to let them prevent me from falling in love. But in the back of my mind the fears were always there. I feared the loss and I feared the sadness but even more than […]
Baby Peace
The doctor tells me I’m good to go– no more tests or appointments until my first ultrasound. But I’m skeptical. Should I request more blood draws? Should I keep a stock of pregnancy tests to take every now and then just to be sure things are still okay– just to be sure the baby’s still […]
On Finding the One
In the first long conversation I had with my husband I was currently interested (maybe obsessed is a better word) in Myers Briggs and the Four Temperaments. I probably spent thirty minutes asking him questions, analyzing his personality, and mapping it out for him in diagrams. Thankfully, he must not have thought I was too […]