In my latest post I said that the message “every girl is beautiful” can be damaging and confusing when by “beautiful” we mean “physically attractive.” I concluded that many of us insist on this message because we think physical attractiveness is absolutely necessary. We fear that physical attractiveness defines our worth. But I think that begs the question: why are we so afraid […]
Because Good People Cheat Too
My husband and I avoid hanging out one on one with people of the opposite sex who aren’t family members. Yes — I know that sounds really weird. We have other “rules” in our marriage (e.g. no phones at the dinner table), but those kinds of rules are socially accepted or even praised. Rules that […]
Missing the Point of Premarital Abstinence
I’ve read many articles criticizing premarital abstinence, claiming that it causes all sorts of sexual issues and insecurities. And I believe those issues are real— but premarital abstinence itself is not to blame. It’s more complicated than that. Because premarital abstinence is an unpopular and difficult commitment many people over-glamorize it. They lose sight of […]
