Throughout both of my pregnancies I feared miscarriage. I tried to commit myself to not entertaining such fears— I tried not to let them prevent me from falling in love. But in the back of my mind the fears were always there. I feared the loss and I feared the sadness but even more than […]
Why Home Videos Make Us Cry (And Why They Don’t Need To)
Yesterday my husband and I were trying to fix my computer and, in the process, stumbled upon a slideshow of home videos. We were sucked in. And as always seems to happen with home videos, they roused within me that deep longing feeling, that pervasive, aching bittersweetness. And as always, I asked myself why? I […]
In Defense of Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day gets a lot of hate. We call it fake, tacky, manufactured, made up. We say it feels arbitrary to expect romance on one day and that that expectation causes unnecessary pressure and stress—that relationships shouldn’t need such a day to express their love. We say that Valentine’s Day can lead to selfishness and […]