Unlike my husband and toddler, my love language is not primarily physical affection. I need to be near those I love, but I don’t necessarily need a whole lot of touch. Many nights in bed I naturally graviate to my own cool space once it’s time to sleep, but no matter what, both my husband […]
So What if We’re Not Biologically Monogamous?
The fact that 38 million married people are registered on the recently hacked cheating website, Ashley Madison, has come as a shock to many, but not necessarily a real disappointment. There have been plenty of recent articles claiming the situation a mere natural consequence of an unnatural expectation. They point to evidence that humans are probably not biologically […]
When The Love Letters Stop
On our bathroom counter there is an old sparkling grape juice bottle decorated with ribbons. It was the bottle my husband (then boyfriend) brought when he took me on a romantic date to the rooftop of our college dining hall. Later, he decorated the bottle for me to keep as a memento. Looking at it today, […]
Only Sexy People Have Sex?
In my latest post I said that the message “every girl is beautiful” can be damaging and confusing when by “beautiful” we mean “physically attractive.” I concluded that many of us insist on this message because we think physical attractiveness is absolutely necessary. We fear that physical attractiveness defines our worth. But I think that begs the question: why are we so afraid […]
Missing the Point of Premarital Abstinence
I’ve read many articles criticizing premarital abstinence, claiming that it causes all sorts of sexual issues and insecurities. And I believe those issues are real— but premarital abstinence itself is not to blame. It’s more complicated than that. Because premarital abstinence is an unpopular and difficult commitment many people over-glamorize it. They lose sight of […]
In Defense of Gifts
In this age of the entitlement complex many parents are rightfully concerned about spoiling their children. I know I am. Last year, after my initial excitement at getting to be Santa for the first time, I was overcome with a gloomy anxiety, a progression of obsessive thoughts and questions: how many gifts is too many? […]